Most of the time, I’m content and happy being single. I don’t feel like I’m missing anything. Honestly, I’ve been in so many relationships when I was younger that I lost count, and the aftermath of chaos and drama still lingers whenever I think about romantic relationships. These days, I’m at peace, feeling whole within myself. I don’t need someone else to complete me. The peace and joy come from within. It’s like I’m in a Nirvana state, right?

Then, out of curiosity—and maybe, just maybe, a little more than that, wondering what the universe had in store for me this time—I decided to try a dating app. I started chatting with someone who claimed to be a yoga teacher and spiritual practitioner. It sounded like a good match already! Their physical appearance wasn’t exactly my type, but hey, why would I turn down an unexpected gift that fate might be offering? I’m feeling optimistic!

We were just getting to know each other—nothing serious, definitely far from flirting—just casual conversations like, ‘How’s your day? What book are you reading?’ and ‘Sure, let’s meet up in person to get to know each other!’ It felt laid-back. The person seemed decent, with some spiritual sense—at least that’s what they claimed, offering teachings and all that. However, my psychic intuition told me something felt very off about them, and that I should be cautious.

Then, the night before our meeting, I was jolted awake by a string of unexpected messages—each one sent chills spiraling down my spine. My phone buzzed like an ominous drumbeat, and with each ping, my heart sank further. Not that I haven’t encountered spine-chilling messages before—especially back when I was ‘in the scene’—but I have to admit, it’s been a while. Messages like, ‘I’m already mooning over you,’ ‘I’m trying hard to keep my heart on a leash from falling too quickly,’ ‘Thank you Yoga! I knew we’re highly compatible romantically,’ and, ‘Just one more sleep before I get to meet you in person.’ – Outright creepy!

Keep in mind, I can count the number of exchanges we’ve had on one hand. The scariest part is, they meant every word—not in a flirtatious, playful way, but in full, unsettling seriousness. Is this person getting way ahead of themselves? We all know that falling too fast, too deep is a massive red flag: emotional clinginess, unhealed wounds, a lack of self-awareness—you name it. And here’s the kicker: we haven’t even met yet!

Another bombshell? They casually mentioned they’d just gone through a heartbreak recently because they ‘fell in love too quickly’ with someone who wasn’t on the same page. What?! Frankly, terrifying!

I couldn’t sleep that night. Not because I was excited to meet them, but because their messages made me feel uncomfortable and even worried about my safety if we met in public.

Then came the flood of questions. Am I being too picky? Fixated on an idea of my dream type? Am I finding excuses not to meet new people so I can hibernate in my comfort zone? Am I stopping myself from experiencing what the universe has for me?

Or do I just know what works for me?

But then, I go back to my higher self. It’s true that the universe brings us people and events every day—gifts or lessons. But do I want to keep running on the same treadmill of past lessons that I’ve already learned too many times? I should have gained enough awareness and consciousness by now to recognize these repeated traps, even when they come dressed in different faces. Should I just be happy-go-lucky (overly naive), taking whatever life throws at me, not discerning the difference between repeated traps and gifts?

It’s an interesting dilemma. So, that early morning, as much as I felt bad bailing out, I called off the meeting at such short notice. To my shocking surprise, they told me that since we wouldn’t be meeting, they had canceled their entire day’s schedule just to be available for me whenever I wanted.

Enough of that sugar-coating creepiness. I’m beyond relieved knowing I dodged what could’ve been a total trainwreck!

Drop me a line if you’ve had similar experiences or feelings—I’d love to hear from you. And if you enjoy reading my articles, please subscribe!

Kari Light ❤

© 2025 karilight.com All rights reserved.

Photography taken in Venice, Italy, 2023.