Not every soul is stuck because of pain, some are stuck because we keep lying to ourselves

We see it everywhere: people trapped in dead-end relationships, stuck in homes that drain their energy, clinging to beliefs we never question. Yet we insist, “This is how life’s supposed to be.”

Sometimes we say it to ourselves. Sometimes we say it to others. We create excuses, gaslight those around us, just to keep the illusion alive. Even when our bodies scream, our spirits dim, and our eyes lose light we still say, “I’m fine.”

No, we’re not fine. We’re surviving. Lying to ourselves just to make it sound noble.

Let me share some examples. I once knew a woman who refused to take hot showers in winter. She claimed hot water gave her rashes and made her dizzy. Sounds reasonable, right? The truth? Her hot water heater had been broken for almost a year. Even if it worked, she wouldn’t have turned it on because she didn’t want to pay the bill.

She wrapped fear and shame in excuses and called it discipline.

Here’s another example: a person I met at a retreat wore “vegetarian” like a badge but filled his days with junk food, midnight snacks, and greasy takeout. He acted like skipping meat made him healthier or more spiritual. It wasn’t about health or truth. It was about identity, image, and avoidance.

We assume everyone shares our health struggles, blaming aging or outside factors, instead of owning our choices. That’s not growth. That’s denial disguised as virtue.

I’ve seen people live under someone else’s roof not as a temporary struggle but as a life sentence they’ve settled into. They don’t resent it. They call it fate. They convince themselves their in-laws are family and they will never leave.

We perform endlessly: obedient spouse, devoted child, dutiful caregiver telling ourselves it’s love, loyalty, or sacred duty.

But it’s not freedom. We’re stuck. We call it sacrifice just to make it sound nice. When our voice belongs to others, when our soul ties itself to someone else’s approval that’s not awakening. When we have to please others to feel safe that’s not peace. That’s surrender.

No amount of prayers will fix that.

This is spiritual bypassing: using sacred words and spiritual labels to avoid facing what we fear. But the soul knows. And over time, those lies dim our spirit until we forget who we were before the mask.

Let me say it plainly: lying to ourselves is a spiritual disease. It kills our energy. It keeps us stuck in finances, health, relationships, even our own bodies.

We stay stuck because honesty and self-reflection are the only keys to the next level, and we refuse to turn them.

Some of us live in situations we secretly hate. Instead of breaking the pattern, we justify it:

“It’s just a phase.”
“I have a perfect marriage.”
“My partner will change.”
“Everything’s gonna be better.”

But deep down? It’s fear. Fear to admit life isn’t what we wanted. So we shrink ourselves just to keep peace or hold onto a lie.

That’s not awakening. That’s avoidance.

The soul doesn’t care how loyal we look or how many people we fool. It only responds to truth.

If our life is built on cover-ups, habits, self-denial, and ego our vibration stays heavy and stagnant.

So, let’s be honest.

How many times have we lied to ourselves just to get through the day?
How often do we say “I’m fine” when we’re clearly not?
How often have we shrunk ourselves to avoid drama or to feel good enough for someone else?

Stop calling it fate or karma. Call it what it is: a pattern we chose. And patterns can be broken.

Choose truth. Even if it costs comfort. Even if it costs our image. Even if it means being misunderstood or judged.

Because our soul is worth more than our script.

‘Til next time, take care!

Kari Light ❤

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Photo taken in Spain, summer 2024. Kari Light